Are you a working mom who is kicking ass and taking names at work?
And you are giving your all to make time for your family but you struggle with work life balance?
We all know this is not a perfect balance, but we are all doing our best.
I have just completed reading Shonda Rhimes’ Year of Yes. One of the ideas that resonate with me is that of saying ‘yes’ to our children‘.
Saying ‘yes’ to our children when they want to play and be with us is easier than we think. Okay not all the time, I am a realist too.
Shonda states that when she plays with her kids, they can only play with her for about 15 minutes before they want to move on.
Do you have 15 minutes? She asks.
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We are out there being awesome at work.
Are you kicking ass and taking names at work?
Saying ‘yes’ to your mentors, sponsors and to those stretch assignments?
Are you putting up with a horrible boss at work?
Let’s also say ‘yes’ to our children and ourselves.
This is how it plays out mamas, admit it:
- Mommy, please play with me outside- Not now angel, I need to do the dishes. Just say ‘yes’.
- There is a moms’ tea at my daughter’s playschool. Should I go? Gosh my diary is a nightmare…. – Just say ‘yes’ to the moms’ tea at least sometimes. We know how we can never make the moms’ tea because its smack bang in the middle of the work. But let’s just say ‘yes’ once.
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What are some steps you can take to say ‘Yes’ to yourself and your children?
Spend time focusing on yourself and your family on weekends. Always aim to close off what you need to do on a Friday.
Then get on the floor and just play with your children.
2. When you leave work, really leave.
Okay, this is personal, as each person needs to find their way of working. Some people, leave work earlier and then catch up in the evening after the kids are down.
Only you can hold yourself accountable for the focus you are giving. Reach out to a mentor if you are struggling, see next point. I wrote a post on this topic, Dear Working Mother, Here is How To Leave Work On Time.
3. Have a mentor who is a working mother.
We all need to have multiple mentors. Have at least one working mom that you can learn from in your personal ‘board of directors’. The challenges and guilt that you face as a working mom are unique. You will have someone you can be open with about your unique life.
4. The Sunday.
This use to be my own issue I created for myself. Working on Sundays, to ‘prepare’ for Monday.
I stopped that as I decided to take back my Sunday evenings to read, watch a movie, spend time with my husband, whatever. That has helped me to say ‘yes’ to myself on a Sunday evening.
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Let’s say yes to being more present
Let’s say ‘yes’ to spending time with our children, being present, they are only this little once.
In my daughters’ eyes (who is three years old) I am a ROCK STAR!! I am her ROCK STAR and I will work on saying ‘yes’ more to her (when she is not driving me nuts).
In which ways can you create more time for play?
Shonda Rhimes Year of Yes: 5 Key Lessons (and why you need this book in your life)
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