I was coming home from work late one evening. I arrived home and both children were already asleep. And I felt so guilty for not seeing my children that evening.
The never ending guilt.. do you feel guilty all the time?
Guilty for not being the one to take my daughter to the doctor when she is sick (the husband), guilty for only seeing my children about two – three hours a day in the week (reality for most working moms). Have you ever sent a sick child to crèche? I have. Guilty.
For a change, can we focus on what is good about being a working mom?
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Working moms contribute towards gender equality
Having a working mom shows girls and boys that men and women can both contribute in and outside the home. In fact, a Harvard study has shown that girls grow up to be more open to careers and boys grow up more empathetic and do more housework. For girls and boys, seeing their mom work outside the home embeds in their values that women should have equal access to opportunities. It creates a mental model that woman have choices, and having a career is an option, alongside out other roles. Similarly, when moms work, that means that dads would typically step in more at home. Fathers helping around the house has a significant impact on reducing gender stereotyping regarding what men and women should and should not do.Let us focus on things we should be proud of as moms and not feel guilty Click To Tweet
Working for what you want in life – work ethic
Having a working mom apply herself to her profession, role models good work ethic in children. It teaches our children that if we want to achieve goals and ambitions, we must put in effort. The best way to encourage our children to work hard towards their goals is to role model this behaviour.To encourage our children to work hard towards their goals is to role model this behaviour. Click To Tweet
Its called lights
Let’s not forget that as a working mom you also help with the bills. And typically in a home where the mom is working, it is a two income household (not always but typically). A two income family have a higher standard of living, and this positively impacts the lifestyle of the household, i.e. better schools, vacations, more exposure in general. That is a real benefit for the entire family.
Independence in kids
Being a working mom, means that your family time is limited. And so your children will need to do certain things on their own as they grow up. This does not mean leaving a child to fend for itself, but you know what, the little tasks they will need to sort out for themselves will help them in the long run. Learning to tidy up, make their own snacks and being responsible in different ways.Having a working mom helps kids build independence Click To Tweet
At the end of it all, you need to be comfortable with how you are finding your own work life ‘integration’. We are all doing our best to look after our families.
When the guilt comes be kind to yourself, and moms be kind to each other.